The Perfect Marriage Vows

We think the perfect recipe or the perfect marriage or relationship vows must certainly be, 'I like you pretty much let's see how it goes.' -Abraham-Hicks

I did not know of this quote when I got married, but we did say that if either one of us would wake up one morning and not appreciate the other person, it was time to move on (out).
That was eighteen years ago and we are still together!

I feel this way about my friends and family too. Recently a friend came out to visit me after many years. She was very surprised to see how much material wealth I had and she kept saying, 'you didn't tell me you had this, or got that.'

Finally I said, 'What does it matter?' and she said, 'my dear, you are in a whole new class now.'
You must stop shopping at (she named the stores I enjoy for everyday items) and move on to (she named some other stores) . 
I was really shocked and I thought in that moment that I didn't really know her and I did not like what I was now coming to know about her.

After a few more days of this, I finally told her that I was going to take her advice, because she was right I wasn't honouring the integrity of who I am by doing some stuff that was no longer serving me.
At this point she visibly brightened up and sat up straighter.
I continued, that means I can no longer keep you as my friend. It just would not fit in with this new class I am in.

There were tears and she left our house immediately, thinking I had become  a selfish beeiach.
She was absolutely right of course. I had become selfish. Selfish enough to care how I feel.
I want to feel good and being with her did not make me feel good.

Funnily enough, I've not missed her, nor thought about her except to use as an example for this blog!